Find a new perspective, a moment of humor, and just maybe, a way to survive.


My First Holiday Season Alone

March 6, 2023

My husband died last summer. He had Alzheimer's. I’ve experienced a lot of “firsts” without him: his birthday, my birthday, Halloween, Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Years, and most recently, Valentine’s Day. Some of those day…

Not Feeling Festive? Light a Solstice Candle

Dec. 21, 2022

Not feeling festive? No surprise. For those of us caring for a spouse with Alzheimer's or other form of dementia, December can be a cruel month. While much of the world is joyful. We're sad. It's part of the journey we're on…

Alzheimer's and Hope - A Gift or A Curse?

Dec. 4, 2022

Are you caring for a spouse with Alzheimer's?  You need to know that hope, like optimism, can strengthen your resilience or distort your reality. Hope can also be the key to your surivival.  My husband died four months ago. …

The Power of Grief, Community, and a Tree

Oct. 23, 2022

When tragedy reshapes your life, having a supportive community is key to your survival. Since my husband died of Alzheimer's three months ago, I've been in a cave of sorts, rarely leaving the house. My neighbors drew me back…

Death and the Funeral

Aug. 27, 2022

From the time my husband was diagnosed with Alzheimer's Disease, my goal was to care for him at home. He died last month, at home, in my arms. This episode shares deeply personal details about the changes in our relationship…

Hospice - Help When the End is Near

Aug. 1, 2022

My husband died at home on July 19. From steady decline to dramatic drop to sudden nosedive, to death -- that was the pattern. I was prepared for some steps. Others blindsided me. Hospice helped both my husband and me in way…

Sudden Falls and Rapid Changes

June 29, 2022

Alzheimer's degrades a person slowly over a period of years. When a downturn comes, symptoms can escalate suddenly. As a dementia family caregiver, you need to know what that downturn could look like. Knowing can help you su…

Mistakes and Dementia Self-Care Rituals

June 19, 2022

Studies show that how the dementia family caregiver interprets her stress is key to her survival.  I'm sharing 3 rituals I created that have helped me.  I also share 3 mistakes I made in the early years of caring for my husb…

Our Loved Ones - The Power of the Dementia Stories We Tell

May 9, 2022

Zita Christian shares three personal stories about her husband who has late-stage Alzheimer's. She talks about the importance of telling the stories of our loved ones before they are seized with dementia. She talks about why…

Alzheimer's and Vision Changes

April 10, 2022

Even if a patient with Alzheimer's has healthy eyes, the brain can distort what the patient sees. Depth perception changes, too, as does the ability to recognize common items. For an 81-year-old man whose mind tells him he's…

Why You Need a Medical ID Bracelet

March 18, 2022

If your loved one wouldn't understand or know what to do if the police called your home because you'd been in an accident, you need to wear a medical ID bracelet. With the right info, it alerts first responders that your spo…

Lost in the Front Yard

March 3, 2022

More than 20 years ago, my husband successfully thru-hiked the Appalachian Trail. More recently, he took a walk in our small condo complex. When he was finished, he got frustrated because his key wouldn't unlock the front do…

Using the Word "Alzheimer's"

Feb. 19, 2022

The power of a name is not restricted to fairy tales. For the longest time, I couldn't bring myself to talk about my husband's diagnosis: Alzheimer's. When I finally faced the power loaded in that word, everything changed.

Getting the Diagnosis

Feb. 3, 2022

There was a difference between the news I expected and the news we received. Hearing "Alzheimer's," our future suddenly crumbled. The disease affects everyone differently. Maybe my husband wouldn't forget who I was. Maybe he…